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I'm looking back on 2016, and feeling a bit surprised! So much has happened! I had a job, lost it, and got a new one. I moved out of my parents' house and into my own apartment. I wrote a complete draft of a novel and revised it. It hasn't been everything that I expected, or everything I wanted, but it's been good. At the beginning of the year I set some goals for myself, which I wanted to look back on as this year comes to an end.


GOALS
(reflections)

be kinder to yourself
&keep a consistent and regular yoga practice (twice a week)
&commit to vegetarianism
&allow yourself to take mental health days
&spend time with friends (at least twice a month)
&exercise more creatively, and just more
&get your own place to live (and be okay with imperfection)


(Looking back on 2016, I think I have been kinder to myself. For about 6 months of this year, I kept a consistent yoga practice of 2x a week. I tried to take up running, and was only partly successful. I committed much more to vegetarianism, and I learned to take work much less seriously. I was honest with my friends about how they'd hurt my feelings. I lost some close friends and deepened a few friendships. I moved out of my mother's house and set up my own apartment. I started seeing a therapist.

Overall, the most positive changes this year came halfway through, after I lost my job in June - I started going to therapy, and I moved into my own place. Both of these changes have allowed me to start to see myself more clearly as a complete person, with foibles and strengths. I've started to be a bit kinder to myself and others, and I feel very positively about the place I'm in right now.)

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be a better friend
&use social media more (post 2x/week, comment 3x/week, abstain 1x/week)
&spend more time with friends (at least twice a month)
&go out with strangers (once or twice)


(2016 was a challenging year for me, socially. I completely failed my social media promises, managing to be on certain networks more than I wanted (facebook), and others far less than I wanted (livejournal). I tried instagram again, and found that it bored me. I fell half in love with twitter. I didn't open any other accounts of note. As I mentioned above, I was honest with my rl friends, which meant that I lost some old ones. I do feel like I've cultivated a much stronger relationship with one or two of them, and that's made all the stress of honesty worth it. I tried online dating, and didn't enjoy it. I didn't meet very many new people.

I'm not entirely happy with the progress I made in 2016 in relationships. I do think that, on the positive side, I deepened some old friendships and weeded out some of the less positive relationships in my life. But I didn't reach out to make many new friendships, and that's something that I want to work on in the future.)

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become an author
&get paid for something you've written
&develop a writing routine (every day)
&FINISH a novel


(Yes and no. I solidified a routine of writing every day, enough so that it feels strange to go without writing anymore. I did finish the rough draft of a novel. I was not, however, published in any way, shape, or form, and I was certainly not paid.

I feel that the quality of my writing has improved a bit over the last year, and I've been slowly growing more insightful about the characters I'm writing. This is exciting, and proves that all my work hasn't been for nothing.

Overall, I just need to keep working at it.)

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On to the next year!!!

Date: 2016-12-27 01:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amorette.livejournal.com
You are so inspiring, thank you for this post <3 Good job on all your successes this year, I see a lot of them. You achieved many of your goals. Next year is always there for achieving the rest.

I might copy you and post something similar.

Date: 2016-12-27 12:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] incandescent.livejournal.com
Yes, please copy! I have to say, I found it extremely useful to have my resolutions posted at the top of my journal along with my scrapbook. They were always there, reminding me of what I wanted to do.

And thank you, lol. I don't feel very inspiring, but I suppose that's part of what I need to work on. :)

Date: 2016-12-27 09:13 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mijeli.livejournal.com
This is a really inspiring post. Thanks for sharing and for being so honest about your new year's resolutions! It seems rare that people actually go back to see how they succeeded.

As for making new friends ... man, this is HARD ._. I moved to a new city this year, and even though I made some good and promising acquaintances, I find that making friends is so damn hard when you're closer to 30 than 20 (age-wise). It just seems that everyone has their friends and their clique already and they haven't been waiting for you ... I'm constantly torn between "I don't want to push myself on people" and "I need to try harder". No wonder our closest friendships are usually the ones that started back in school.

I don't want to sound all mehh about this, because I love your goal to make NEW friends on top of deepening old ones! I guess what I'm saying is, the process is different when you're older and it might be harder (but doesn't have to be) :)

Congratulations on establishing a writing routine and on finishing a first draft of your novel!! That is fantastic. (Did you participate in NaNoWriMo, by the way?) I feel we're on the same page with our writing, a bit ^_~ I also think I have made progress, but I'm still far from being published with my fiction. Well, I console myself by thinking of great writers such as Munro or Murakami, who weren't published before they hit their 40ies ;-)

All the very best for your 2017!

Date: 2016-12-27 12:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] incandescent.livejournal.com
Thank you so much! I don't feel particularly inspiring, but that's part of it, I suppose. :)

I did participate in NaNo! Both in the summer and fall, which helped me stay on track. That, and [livejournal.com profile] getyourwordsout, an amazing community that really kept me writing regularly. It pushed me to meet my big writing goals, and I'm so happy to have met them.

Friends are HARD. The hardest, really. I have control over the friends I make and yet... can't seem to make any. I completely agree with you about how it gets harder as you get older. I'm just going to try to make one more friends. Even that would be a success, imo.

Thank you, the best to you, too!

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